Dom

Dom

Wednesday, November 17, 2010

Updates, Improvements and Stress as usual...

It has been a while since I last entered a post. A lot has changed in the past few months, so i will break it down by family member!

Jonathan - is doing amazingly well in school, 90's in everything, i would love to say that he got his smarts from me, but for anyone who knows me, knows that i would be lying! ha ha

Nathanial - is a senior, college planning and has a girlfriend. So what does this mean for me? stress, white hair and more white hair! It might sound extremely crazy that I (31 year old) have a senior in high school, but I do and he is amazing. I am going to be so sad when he leaves me for college. Note that I said "leave me". Having a 17 yr old and having a 4 yr old, you tend to lean on the 17 yr old for "normal conversation" in between dealing with tantrums, thomas the train and yo gabba gabba!

Dominic - Dom has been doing amazing in school. He is in a new class with other goofy 4 yr olds, some who are special needs like him and some typical ones too. It is amazing and astonishing to see the MANY gains that Dom has made in the past year. When he started pre school he would cry every time I would drop him off, be scared and not socialize or say more than two words at a time. But NOW - he doesn't even say goodbye to me, i have to chase him down, he is making friendships with kids his own age as well as talking non-stop in complete, understandable conversations.  As for the Aspergers, his socialization has grown tremendously although in groups he does still struggle. He is actually pretending to talk on the phone, which may seem trivial to a 4 year old, but for my little guy, abstract play and imagination is something he had to learn and was not innate like many typical kids his age.

Dom has definitely grown as a person and a child with Aspergers which bring me to my stress of the year - KINDERGARTEN!!! While being in preschool, the teachers are always there when i have a question and if they aren't, they are on facebook so i can stalk on that. Now in grade school there isnt that constant teacher-parent support that a neurotic parent as myself needs on a daily basis. My wish is that Dominic does well and isnt neglected in his class next year. What if he is "lost" in class and no one notices? what if he gets bullied and he is afraid to tell someone? what if he is bullied and him being his aspergers type self doesnt know that he is actually being bullied? These are the thoughts that go through my mind constantly. I normal mom would probably try not to worry until next year, but as again, if anyone knows me, they know that i am FAR from normal!