Hey guys again....
I swear that my heart is breaking inside my chest. Dom is not the kid that i know these days. He is very anti-social, refuses to leave the house and is just not himself.
As soon as school ended Dom started turning into this very reserved child. His teacher, the only teacher that he has had his whole life will not be his teacher anymore and he is getting a new one since he is getting older. I am welcome for the change but i dont think Dom is. Since the last week of school he started becoming very difficult getting ready for school in the am, but was also being teansitioned into his new class. Aspergers plus change does not bode too well with him.
As soon as vaca started he becoming a recluse. He doesnt want to leave the house, jst wants to stay home all the time, we even go to his favoite friends houses and he just sits in a corner and looks so sad/miserable, it just breaks your heart seeing him like that.
Watching dom like this is so dificult for me. In the past 2 years he has progressed so much and has gotten so much better, it is very heartwenching to see him like this. How can regressions happen so fast and be so difficult. I CAN NOT wait until next tues when school starts!
Dom
Wednesday, June 30, 2010
Sunday, June 27, 2010
Last week of school/avb - what was i thinking?
This week we decided to end AVB at home. For those of you who dont know what that is, it is Applied Verbal Behavior which is used for kids on the autistic spectrum. We paid out of pocket for Dom since he ended Early Intervention last June. It helped dom with his processing/speech/sitting skills/etc...
This week also ended his school year. Although he only gets 11 days off until summer ends, he is also getting a new teacher for the first time i 12 months. Basically, it was the only teacher he knew.
OK - WHAT WAS I THINKING ON THIS ONE.
Way too much change for Dom. He now wants to stay home, not go anywhere. It takes about 20 minutes to get into the car. I guess with Aspergers kids this can be normal. Since they do have a hard time socializing, but still give me a little something!
Its not like Dom is my only kid. I have Nathanial ( 16 yr old who refuses to get a job ) and Jonathan ( 13 yr old who wants to be busy 24/7) and i am working for the next 6 weeks - this summer is going to rock!
This week also ended his school year. Although he only gets 11 days off until summer ends, he is also getting a new teacher for the first time i 12 months. Basically, it was the only teacher he knew.
OK - WHAT WAS I THINKING ON THIS ONE.
Way too much change for Dom. He now wants to stay home, not go anywhere. It takes about 20 minutes to get into the car. I guess with Aspergers kids this can be normal. Since they do have a hard time socializing, but still give me a little something!
Its not like Dom is my only kid. I have Nathanial ( 16 yr old who refuses to get a job ) and Jonathan ( 13 yr old who wants to be busy 24/7) and i am working for the next 6 weeks - this summer is going to rock!
Monday, June 14, 2010
Trying to be a good mom is a stessful job.....
Let me start by saying that i have made about one million mistakes on this whole stepmom/mom thing. I am never one to say that i am perfect or a good role model for other moms right there.
It is very frustrating trying to juggle three hats around the parenting job. Mom of an aspergers toddler, mom of a teenager and mom to a son who is days away from being a senior in hig school.
My average day is getting all 3 boys ready for school in the morning with lots of help from dad, going to work, picking up dom at 130, come home to kid 1 and 2 consecutively. It is like 2nd part of my day starts at 2pm. During the afternoons i am either, preparing dinner, dealing with doms latest crisis, referee between the 2 older ones and trying to find my sanity around the house. It is a lot to handle, but who am to complain. I have a loving family, great friends and a beautiful life.
I am always trying to do things for the boys, but not like anyone notices around here. Being a mom has to be the hardest job in the world and being a step mom is even harder!!
It is very frustrating trying to juggle three hats around the parenting job. Mom of an aspergers toddler, mom of a teenager and mom to a son who is days away from being a senior in hig school.
My average day is getting all 3 boys ready for school in the morning with lots of help from dad, going to work, picking up dom at 130, come home to kid 1 and 2 consecutively. It is like 2nd part of my day starts at 2pm. During the afternoons i am either, preparing dinner, dealing with doms latest crisis, referee between the 2 older ones and trying to find my sanity around the house. It is a lot to handle, but who am to complain. I have a loving family, great friends and a beautiful life.
I am always trying to do things for the boys, but not like anyone notices around here. Being a mom has to be the hardest job in the world and being a step mom is even harder!!
Sunday, June 6, 2010
Birthday Parties - Like them or HATE THEM
As many of you know, Dom is almost 4 years old and gets invited to a birthday party almost ever single week. Dont get me wrong, i do love parties, mostly the ones that involve alcohol, but kid birthday parties can be fun too.
While having a kid on the spectrum, this is where it gets more interesting. Dom loves going to parties. But he either has a bad time or a fabulous time all depending on his mood. My role as a mom is not to sit back and relax, but to keep an eye on him, making sure he is comfortable, having a good time and doing well in the various social situations that he might encounter during those long 2 hours.
Some days are perfect and others i can just see his anxiety rise and that is very hard to watch, that is when i act like a goofball in front of all the other 20 parents who probably think i am an over protective mom, bt who cares, i jst my kid to have a good time!
I really do wish they would have adult cocktails at these things, i certainly need them more than most!
While having a kid on the spectrum, this is where it gets more interesting. Dom loves going to parties. But he either has a bad time or a fabulous time all depending on his mood. My role as a mom is not to sit back and relax, but to keep an eye on him, making sure he is comfortable, having a good time and doing well in the various social situations that he might encounter during those long 2 hours.
Some days are perfect and others i can just see his anxiety rise and that is very hard to watch, that is when i act like a goofball in front of all the other 20 parents who probably think i am an over protective mom, bt who cares, i jst my kid to have a good time!
I really do wish they would have adult cocktails at these things, i certainly need them more than most!
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