Dom

Dom

Sunday, May 16, 2010

Great Saturday Horrendous Sunday

This weekend was definately full of many ups and downs.
On Saturday we went to Doms good friends house to play and for the very first time, i saw Dominic having a conversation with another boy for about 15 minutes! It was totally amazing to see. For a long time i have always wondered if Dom would be able to accomplish this. Usually when other kids go up to Dom to speak to them he just stares at them blankly and it is very hard to watch. But with this boy he is very familiar with and it is definately in his "comfort zone". It is definately a great start. Did i also mention that Dom was with this boy for 6 hours! Are we heading towards normalcy? I would of thought so if Sunday didnt happen.

Today was just tantrum/meltdown Sunday. I dont know if there was a black cloud over my house but Dom must of had 100 tantrums today, over practically nothing. he was probably worn out from the day before, but honestly this kills me. I am so drained finding out what he is angry about, trying to calm him down, trying to teach him the right way to act and deal with it. Being a mom/teacher is a very hard job. Thank God for vino

Monday, May 10, 2010

Aspergers funny of the day

Mom: Dom, I will be right back, i have to run downstairs and get something.

Dom: Mommy, dont run, walk and be careful

Sunday, May 2, 2010

2 Birthday Parties with my little ASPIE

*** For the familes of the birthday parties we went to, please dont be offended by what you may read ***

So as many of those parents out there who have little ones, i am sure you signed up your little kids for classes like baby mama yoga and gymboree classes, right? Well Dom did so many classes i cant even count them anymore, so he has had little "best friends" since he was 6 months old and therefore gets invited to ALOT of birthday parties. Dont get me wrong, i like parties, i like seeing Dom having fun and socializing but yesterday was just an emotional day for me!

We got invited to four birthday parties this weekend, unfortunately we could only make 3 - poor Dom.
Anyways, the first party was at Tumbling Tykes which is a gymboree type place where you jump and run around, do some circle time eat pizza and have cake. Dom has been here a few times so he was pretty comfortable there and had fun for the most part.

As some of your mommies out there know Dom has Aspergers Syndrome, so as an AS kid if dom doesnt know what to do he just stands there or hides under a toy. For example during the parachute game, something bothered Dom so he just layed there as the other kids got out - no big deal for me, i dealt with that. Then he wanted help on stairs so he couldnt find me so he jus layed on a trampoline in a curled position. That wasnt so bad either, but it is very hard to just watch Dom laying there not knowing what to do. Actually it just braks my heart in two. Well, after that we were able to have a great time and dom participated in most the activities and had fun. So you would think he would nap after that right?

FAT CHANCE

We then dropped by my friends house where dom was cranky and played a while and then went went to party number 2! This party was at a soccer place with a bouncy house. At first dom went on the house and slid around a while. After a whikle i didnt see him so i went to find him, he was standing at the bottom of the stairs waiting to get up these bouncy stairs to go down the slide. As all these crazy 2-4 year olds were pushing their way up Dom was just standing there. Having AS also means lack or awkwardness of socialization. So me being super mom went into the bouncy house and helped Dom go up the stiars a bunch of times as well as the other kids. I dont mind helping but boy was i gett5ing exhausted. After a little while we went downstairs to the green indoor soccer field. This is where the hardest part started. All of the 25 kids there had to stand on this white line and follow direction/instructions. This is where Dom really struggles. He does pretty well one on one, but throw in 25 kids and 2 intructors yelling he is just "lost". I basically stayed on the field and helped him hand over hand and he did "ok". I just felt so bad that Dom was struggling so much. It is very hard to watch your child struggle at something all the other kids his age get right away. And so the heart wrenching starts again.

We then went upstairs for a people break and went on the bouncy house with just 1 other person anddom had a fabulous time. We had pizza, cake and went home.

Dom did have a good time, but boy was i ready for a pitcher or 2 of margaritas! Today we have another bday party. Most parents or some parents would not go to another one today but i really feel the more activities dom does the more accustomed he will be. Well i hope so anyways and i am signing dom up for sccer soon to get used to the instruction, i know that i sould double crazy, but it could only help, right??????